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How to Act Toward Your Child

Provide safety, love and support.  Let them know it is okay to cry or be angry.  Make sure your child understands it is not their fault.  Do not coach or pressure your child to talk about things.
Some things you can say that will really help your child:
  • I believe you.
  • I know it is not your fault.
  • I am glad I know about it.
  • I am sorry this happened to you.
  • I will take care of you.
  • I am not sure what will happen next.
  • Nothing about YOU made this happen. It has happened to other children too.
  • You do not need to take care of me.
  • I am upset, but not with you.
  • I am angry at the person who did this, not you.
  • I am sad.  You may see me cry.  That is ok.  I will be able to take care of you.  I am not mad at you.
  • I do not know why he/she did it.  He/she has a problem.
  • You can still love someone but hate what he/she did to you.

Some things you can do:
  • Return to a normal routine as soon as possible.
  • See that your child receives therapy as soon as possible.
  • Trying to sweep the problem under the rug usually causes more problems because it will not go away.
  • Find help for yourself.  You do not have to do it all alone.
  • Teach your child the rules of personal safety.  Tell them what to do if someone tries to touch them in an uncomfortable way.
  • Be careful not to question your child about the abuse.  If you do, you can jeopardize the case in court against your child's abuser.  Specially trained professionals will come to Kids' Place to interview your child to obtain necessary information without harming the case or further traumatizing the child.  If your child wants to talk to you about it, listen supportively, but do not probe.
  • Keep your child away from the person suspected of abuse.  This is to protect the child, you, and the suspect.
  • Avoid discussing the case with other victims or their families.
  • Never coach or advise your child on how to act or what to say to professionals or investigators.  This could seriously damage the case.
  • Your child may need an extra sense of physical security.  Stay close and assure your child you will keep them safe.
  • If you have other children, remember to give them attention.
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